Madeleine Aggeler wrote
It’s a popular saying from the late Cretaceous (pre-2020) that goes like this: “Tired of seeing BAD POLICE. Can’t wait to go home and look at the GOOD GUARD.”
In this case, it’s a bad computer job in which he does boring things like scheduling meetings, filling in spreadsheets and rolling back the electronics.
A “good idea” is a personal computer on which one does things like scheduling meetups (with friends, at bars, restaurants, or other homes), filling in spreadsheets (for bachelorette party logistics, potluck dinners), and rolling back. about emails (about bachelorette party logistics; about which no one had signed up to bring salads to the potluck).
You can also stream TV shows and stuff.
The point is that our work and personal lives often don’t look all that different. The corporate tools we use for work have crept into our lives. That can be understood because, while a corporation can never be a family – whatever HR can say in an overenthusiastic way – it can be a personal life job in the sense that individuals have personal goals that they want to achieve, mundane tasks that need to be accomplished and necessary. They want to share infrequent conversations over coffee.
The means for accomplishing these things are often the same in both worlds, and it is too much to look for traces of many different systems of organization from creatures who, in the great part of our history, have only recently learned to walk on two feet.
All of this makes no sense, but it can also feel a little sterile and unromantic, like a Valentine’s Day email from your dentist’s office. In what way does the professional life of our leeches have any spirit or spontaneity? When does the order release at a healthy level? But how can relationships built on mutual respect, trust, and admiration be given by someone who posted a Calendly link unsolicited?
Last December, Kenzi Enright, a 29-year-old digital strategist from Milwaukee, posted a picture to Twitter of her father’s agenda for his weekly get-together with friends. Topics included: “The World Cup” and “China and Russia”, from time left to “General Debate”. The post went viral, and Enright explained via Twitter that his father and friends call these “board meetings,” and other “board members” go ahead to see if they have the topics they want. they would add
Laura Vanderkam, 44, a time management expert who lives outside Philadelphia, argued that Enright’s plan “demonstrates a level of social intelligence and movement that would benefit a lot more social organizations.”
Too often, Vanderkam argued, people don’t get enough advice on how to structure personal time. “There are so many icky things in the workplace,” he said. “But in general, people are trying to get things done, and so they’re more willing about their time at work.
After a long, jam-packed day of work, the plan for one downtime may not sound right. But while you might think that trying to use free time to spontaneously enhance our relationships, repair batteries, or lounge around the campus in a languid sleepiness, Vanderkam says that’s generally not the case.
“What happens when people don’t deal with the plan is that they feel like it’s not happening,” he said. “In a highly distracted world, you’re not going to automatically choose the most restful and relaxing activity. You’re going to do whatever is in front of you.”
When Jayne Drost Johnson, 39, started JDJ, a contemporary art program with galleries in New York and Manhattan’s Tribeca neighborhood in 2018, she wanted to grow her career while recalibrating her work-life balance. much time with her daughter. “I thought, I don’t want to fail to grow up because I’m always stuck in the hallway on Saturday.”
Enter: Google Calendar. Johnson’s recalibration involved a great deal of confidence for them – for himself, for the gallery, for his family. “For to put everything in my fasts,” he said. “Sometimes the projects that are related work, sometimes it’s like, today’s day is a weed in the garden.”
Corporate media is also helpful in interpersonal relationships, said Jessica Stern, a clinical psychologist at New York University Langone Health. He suggests couples have monthly meetings to discuss administrative matters, such as finances and communication styles. She also recommends a schedule for couples of the sexes.
“They often say, ‘So weird, sex should be spontaneous,'” Sternus said. “But if you and your partner can’t find the time to connect with each other, there’s nothing more than a modest way to say, ‘I want to put you first on my schedule.'”
The caveat when using tools to connect with friends and loved ones is to make sure you don’t push your friends and family away from them; “You can find the type of person who is very organized by sending Google invitations, or Google Docs to plan a trip, or a karaoke night,” Stern said. “So that your friends, or your friends, feel oppressed by that class.”
The general scientific consensus is that our brain’s working memory – the type of short-term memory that allows us to retain information while focusing on something else – can only hold about four things at once. This means that we only rely on our brains to remember what is important for two seconds until the pure plan, until the fifth thing you need to remember.
“Most people try to use their head office, but it’s the worst job,” says David Allen, a productivity consultant who has created a more colorful term than “worst.” It’s not your head to manage, to remind, to prioritize. You need to remove all that.
But even if you’re intentional about your free time, keep a perfect Google Calendar, never miss an email, and every thought that enters your gray, wrinkled brain, the truth is that time is running out for support and trying to get everything done. one thing both professionally and personally is a Sisyphean task that you will fail completely.
“You can find something, but not everything,” Allen said. “So you just have to be comfortable with the choices you make about what you’re going to do and what you’re not going to do.”
In other words, it’s something to come to peace with, perhaps by putting time in the spotlight and considering the beauty and futility of life.